The tenth and final theme from the 80/20 DVD I would like to comment on is the importance of being grateful to your caregivers.

As we are consumed by our illness, and all the ways that it has altered our reality and our abilities, it can be very easy to forget how our illness affects those around us and how much we need their help. We simply could not recover without our caregivers, and my belief is that we should be openly and consistently grateful.

Let’s consider this question: who faces the more challenging reality, the mental illness sufferer or the spouse, family member or loved one who tries to offer support each day, all the while overcoming feelings of helplessness and fear?

In my opinion, the answer is that our caregivers face the larger challenge, for the simple reason that they are not forced to face the reality of mental illness. We must deal with the symptoms of our illness – they are there, a part of us – however our caregivers remain and help us by choice, out of love and concern. Theirs is a difficult path, and their choice is incredibly generous.

Of course, some are unable to do so and withdraw. Most caregivers, however, rise admirably to the challenge and learn what is needed of them – and then offer it every day, month and year to the best of their abilities. And I am eternally grateful to every single caregiver in my life for all they have given, and all they continue to offer me.

Be well,
Jason Finucan